What is Beyond Divorce

Who would have thought that one of the first things that you talk about in a marriage class you be divorce? Divorce has been something that has been a part of my life a lot this past year. I have had to watch as one of my family members got divorced and a close friend of mine get divorced also. I definitely has made me a lot more aware of what can happen to a marriage if its foundation isn’t stable and enough time and effort isn’t put into it. Even when the divorce was something that was necessary for the person’s well-being, it was still very hard on them. One of the things that really hit me hard was watching the videos for the class that I’m taking is when it talked about what the kids of divorced parents go through. When one of my family members got a divorce my niece was very young, but you could still see that it was affecting her in a not so great way. I remember that there was one day when she was dropped off at my parents’ house and she was screaming for her mom before she had even walked out the door. Before they had gotten divorced she had never had any sort of separation anxiety (that I’m aware of). It really made me realize at that moment that divorce doesn’t just affect the parents, it affects everyone involved. It has also been something that has been on my mind as I am preparing to get married. I never want to put anyone through the pain that divorce brings, but especially not to my future children. Even though it was difficult to watch the people that I love and care about go through that, it opened up my eyes a ton! Marriage is something that is very important to me and is something that I am thankful that I have a different view than a lot of people in the world do today! Marriage isn’t just all about love, it involves so much more.